I have a friend who teaches orchestra to high school students. Sometimes when a student explains to him why they are behaving in a certain way he asks them, “How’s that working for you?” I think that is a great question. If a student tells him he had too much to do the night before and didn’t practice, he asks them how that is working for them. He wants the student to realize the connection between a decision she/he made and how it is affecting what is happening in the moment

For a number of years I taught graduate students the fundamentals of therapy. If you boil it down to the basics what really is therapy? Most often it is two people in a room and one is there because their world is not working out the way they want and the other is there to help them out. We all have been in both roles, although usually we don’t get financially compensated for helping out a friend. But when friends are hurting and they come to you, you do your best to help the