Have To & Want to
I have been focusing on reducing my "have to's" and expanding my "want to's." I have written before that a lot of things we complain about having to do are actually things we get to do. "Have to" is a relative term. You may have to go to work, have to run some errands, have to pay your bills and have to read this post. No, you don't have to read this post. And you don't have to do any of those other things. You get to.
There are people all over the world that want to do the things we feel we have to do. When you want to work, want to run errands, want to live where you life isn't threatened every day, the idea of complaining about having the opportunity to work is an unfamiliar thought. In the United States, where things don't seem so united anymore, we call many of our complaints first world problems. I don't like the idea of dividing the globe into first second or third worlds, although I realize we all have different realities.
When I hear myself saying, I have to do something. I see if I can change it to "I get to do." I get to go to work. I get to run errands, I get to do a lot of things that I might prefer not to do, but ultimately glad I am able to do.
I am close to finishing up the second novel in a mystery series and looking forward to writing more. While I would like an established publishing house to print my books, have the series garner good reviews and provide financial security, I don't have to have those things happen. I can self-publish the book, put it on Amazon and some people will stumble upon it and maybe read it or maybe not. I want good things to happen to the books, but I don't want to put much energy into promoting it. I would rather put my energy into writing the next book. I don't have to write the next books in the series, I eagerly want to.
I am truly happy to be eager to write and am spending more and more time doing it. I always wanted to be a writer and now I am. I will be sending out some information about the books as they find their way to being published. In the meantime, I am going to endeavor to do more of what I want.